How To Politely Give Directions When Being Eaten Out

The teacher asked Jimmy, “Why is your cat at school today Jimmy?” Jimmy replied crying, “Because I heard my daddy tell my mommy, ‘I am going to eat that pussy once Jimmy leaves for school today!'”

Alright, Oral sex is an incredibly personal experience. It’s one of the few chances we get in life to lay back and receive. When we’re getting oral, there’s nothing for us to do other than pay attention to the stimulation. This aspect of oral sex is part of the reason why most women are very particular about what they like and don’t like. What works for one woman almost never works for another. And when you’re not getting the type of oral you like, it isn’t just unpleasurable — it can actually be downright unpleasant.

Putting it all on your partner to magically decipher the exact way to stimulate you creates a lot of pressure and oftentimes doesn’t work out in your favor. In order to avoid the stomach-churning, full-body cringe that frequently accompanies bad oral sex, you have to be good at giving feedback.

I know that giving feedback can feel awkward for a lot of women. My people tell me that they don’t always know what they like. Of course, it’s hard to imagine telling a partner what to do if you’re not quite sure yourself. Even if you do know what type of stimulation works for you sometimes you can feel confused about how to explain what you want.

Not helping matters is the fact that most sex advice stops at “give him feedback about what you like,” without getting into any specifics. So let’s buck that frustrating trend and go over some details.

Tease Ride Please; Sexually Satisfying Him

When & How to Give Feedback

First, let’s discuss when and how to give your feedback. I’m going to give you four different techniques, ranked in order of easiest to bravest:

Communicate non-verbally. 

This is the least challenging way to give feedback. You can use loud moaning, writhing, or heavy breathing to convey what you like during oral sex. Move your hips towards your partner when they’re doing something you like, and away when the stimulation is a bit too much. Run your hands through their hair or squeeze their hand to show them they’re doing a good job. This method is a bit limiting because your feedback can be misinterpreted. You may think you’re being perfectly clear, but your partner may be oblivious. I don’t recommend relying exclusively on non-verbal feedback, but it can be a good place to start.

Eating Pussy Guide; Oral Sex Positions for Pleasuring a Woman

Talk to your partner afterwards. 

Some women find that giving direct feedback in the moment feels too intimidating or distracting. If that’s the case for you, you can try talking to your partner when you both have your clothes back on. You can do a post-sex rundown of all of your favorite moments. The other beneficial aspect of this method is that it gives you a specific experience to refer back to. For example, you can tell your partner, “What was that thing you were doing with your hand? It felt so good to have your fingers inside of me while your mouth was on my clit.”

Fingering Her; Explicitly Illustrated Techniques to do it Right

Tell your partner in the moment what you like or want.

The benefit to giving feedback as you’re receiving oral sex is that you’re more likely to turn that particular experience into an enjoyable one. Giving feedback about what feels good at that very second is fun because it naturally requires you to pay even more attention to the stimulation you’re receiving. Examples of feedback you can give in the moment include, “yes, keep doing that!” or “a little faster.”

Goddess of Sex; Sexually Driving Your Man Crazy

Tell your partner beforehand what you want them to do to you.

This option is the gutsiest, but can also be a lot of fun. You can get as detailed or graphic as you’d like. For example, “I want you to run your tongue in circles around my clit until I’ve had at least two orgasms.” (Hey, might as well be ambitious!)

Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it

OK, But What Do You Actually Say?

Next, let me explain what your feedback should entail. In giving feedback, your goal is to help your sexual partner bring you more pleasure. There are four distinct types of feedback that you may find useful:

What has worked for you historically. 

You may already know that you love having your clitoris sucked very gently. Or perhaps you like extra attention paid to your inner labia. You can give your partner this feedback before you guys get started, for example, “I love being teased, so don’t go for my clitoris right away.” Or you can use that information to inform your instructions in the moment.

Guide for Women; How To Orgasm Every Time

What you’re liking in the moment.

If you haven’t had great oral sex experiences, you probably haven’t had the chance to figure out what you actually like. In those instances, you’re going to have to rely on what the stimulation feels like in the moment to give feedback. For example, “oh yes, keep doing that!” Even if you think you’re already crystal-clear on what you want, a new partner may surprise you with a technique you’ve never experienced before.

Cunnilingus 101; An Illustrated Guide into Eating Pussy Like a Savage

What you want to try. 

I’m a huge proponent of experimenting when it comes to sex. There’s always something new to try! You can suggest reading a sexual technique book together, watching an instructional video, or even taking a class.

See guides linked to in this post!

What’s working better 

One of my favorite suggestions is to utilize A/B testing. This can be particularly useful if you don’t really know what you like yet. Tell your partner two different techniques to try, then compare them and report back on what you liked best. For example, have him flick his tongue back and forth, then up and down over your clit. Your job is to figure out which one feels better.

Blowjob Done Right; Pleasing Your Man with Oral Sex

Some Things To Avoid

It’s also good to know what kind of feedback isn’t helpful. Some things to avoid:

Criticism. 

No one likes to hear that they’re doing a bad job. Try finding ways to frame your feedback in positive terms. For example, “go back to that thing you were just doing a second ago. That was so good.” If your partner is doing something you don’t like, gently redirect him — “slow down for a second so I can really enjoy that.”

Demands. 

Asking for what you want is good. Acting entitled to it is not. (Unless you’re role-playing with power dynamics, of course!)

Penis Massage; Complete Guide into Pleasuring Him with Your Hands

Contempt. 

No eye rolls or exasperated sighs. Be respectful of the person between your legs.

Vague or overly complicated feedback.

“I don’t know, maybe just like, be more passionate or something” isn’t going to make sense to anyone. Try to be clear and keep it simple.

Hopefully you now have a better sense of the ins and outs of sexual feedback. It will probably still feel uncomfortable at times, but keep in mind that getting better at giving feedback is a skill well worth developing. The more confident you feel dispensing instructions and input, the better your sex life and relationship is going to be. And that’s worth communicating for.

INSIDE RANDOM PAGES SCREENSHOTS here

Finally here are the simplified steps to enchant and surprise your man in bed, completely driving him wild. I am going to teach you exactly how to talk dirty to your man so that you can build sexual tension, keep him deeply attracted to you and most importantly so that you have incredible sex. Learn new foreplay moves to make your man obsessed.

With the hand job techniques in here that will bring your man back-arching ecstasy and having him begging you for more. I’m also going to reveal the exact techniques, attitudes, and tips that these “blow job queens” use to give their men the best oral sex of their lives.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

Create a website or blog at WordPress.com

Up ↑

%d bloggers like this: