There are actions you can take to last longer in bed. Orgasming too quickly doesn’t need to be an issue that plagues you for the rest of your life. Using a combination of these techniques will increase your likelihood of being able to have longer sex sessions than you’re used to.
(Side note: Sex doesn’t have to be over once you orgasm! You can always spend 20-25 minutes manually and orally stimulating your partner after you climax. Eventually, they’ll be really turned on, your refractory period will be up, and you’ll be able to have penetrative sex again. This time, since you just came, you should be able to last longer than the first time!)
1) Limit your thrusting.
There are plenty of ways to enjoy intercourse without thrusting like a jackrabbit. You can massage the tip of your penis into her clitoral hood. You can focus on the nerve endings in her vaginal entrance instead of seeing how deep you can get. You can press your penis against her G-spot. Sure, throw a little thrusting in there too, but if you feel like you’re about to reach the point of no return, there are ways to slow things down without sacrificing your partner’s pleasure.
2) Wait longer for intercourse—or hell, don’t do it all.
All too often, we think of sex as being penis-in-vagina. But that’s such a limiting—and frankly, boring—definition of sex. There are plenty of other sexual activities that’ll bring you both pleasure and prolong the overall length of your hookup, including erotic massage, experimenting with kinks, or focusing entirely on stimulating your partner (oral sex, anyone?).
Speaking of oral, this is a great way to increase her likelihood of reaching orgasm. Very few women have the capacity to orgasm from direct penetration; the rest need clitoral stimulation to orgasm.
3) Switch things up.
Instead of picking one position and pounding away like the aforementioned jackrabbit, try alternating between a few different configurations to last longer during sex. Switching positions provides a little bit of “time off” when your penis is not being stimulated.
You can also try out some more elaborate sex positions that require physical stamina. With these “wilder” more physically strenuous sex positions, you’ll be more focused on technique and balance so you won’t be able to focus on the physical stimulations as much.
4) Choose sex positions that’ll help you last longer.
In a similar vein, you want to skip positions that provide too much stimulation. Positions like doggy style or flatiron, where you can go super-duper deep and get all the extra stimulation from your partner’s booty, are probably good to skip.
Instead, try positions that only allow for shallower penetration, or that don’t allow for much “in and out” movement. The CAT (Coital Alignment Technique) is ideal if you’re looking for something shallow. (Plus, it’s great for her pleasure!) Then there’s the Lotus position, which is all about grinding against each other as opposed to hardcore thrusting.
5) Masturbate beforehand.
Masturbating alone prior to a sexual encounter is a free and simple technique to help fight premature ejaculation. Sometimes ejaculating too quickly is due to the fact that you’re all riled up and haven’t ejaculated recently, which means your prostate is fully engorged. When it’s been a while since you last ejaculated, the slightest touch, lick, or thrust can set you off (literally).
If you masturbate close to when you know you’re going to have sex, you’re essentially having sex a second time, which means it will take a little longer to climax.
Caution: Practice the appropriate timing in between sessions because the last thing you want is to then not be able to perform at all.
If you notice you’re still having issues with PE even when masturbating beforehand, then you can masturbate repeatedly beforehand to help combat the issue during sex.
6. Direct & Distract
This technique requires you to engage in sex positions that put the woman in control – which is great because firstly, it allows you to relax your important muscle groups and thus keep premature ejaculation in check. Secondly, you girl will get the thrill from being in charge.
As long as you keep your pelvic muscles relaxed during sex, your tendency to ejaculate quickly is significantly REDUCED…
The three most common sex positions that put her in control of the action are cowgirl (her on top, facing you), reverse cowgirl (her on top, facing away from you); and doggy style. (Doggy style might seem like a position where the man is in control, but in reality, very often the girl will start moving back and forth on her own).
Now let’s say she is on top of you, in cowgirl. When you start to feel yourself getting near the edge, pull her down towards you to kiss her. In this position, her chest is pretty much parallel to your torso. This allows you to take over the action. Because she’s leaning forward so much, she’ll naturally stop or slow down the amount of bouncing and grinding. You can now place your hands on her rear and take over the thrusting at your own speed. This gives you the chance to tamp down your arousal. So in essence, you distract by kissing her and direct by taking over the thrusting.
Now let’s imagine you’re in doggy and she’s controlling the back and forth movement. Distract her by leaning forward a little, reaching around her waist and rubbing her clitoris. This will make her slow down her movement. Now slowly take over the thrusting until you’re going at a fair speed. At this point, lean back so you’re vertical again and carry on. When you’re ready for her to take over once more, stop thrusting and she’ll feel a natural urge take control again.
The Distract and Direct technique works so well because the girl always feels like she’s the one controlling the
A man can learn to exhibit loads of sexual confidence simply by building up his sexual competence. Skills are an important part of the sexual game play and for lasting longer action, even when – for a minute or two – you take over. She doesn’t realize this happens because she gets distracted by you kissing or rubbing her. Before she knows it, she’s back controlling the action. This makes sex feel two-way, shared and therefore darn good, for you and for her!
7. Counting Thrusts
Since guys really screw with their brains and not their penises, the more you divert your attention from what is going on in your delivery system down below, the less likely you will ejaculate prematurely.
Thus, one way to delay orgasm is to count every thrust inward, and focus your attention on the counting and not what your penis is feeling. Try to reach 100, and then start over again.
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